I learned the coolest thing studying for my licensure exam (well, lots of cool things but this one stands out….) and that is:  of
Abraham Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, the need to self-actualize – that is to meet one’s personally defined need to grow, to
be creative, to find meaning in one’s life – NEVER ENDS!!!! Why is that so amazing?  Well, every definition and description
of Maslow’s theory that I’d read prior presents the six needs in a linear fashion, that they are stages one passes through to
get to a defined end point. But we all know that’s not how it feels to accomplish things, to be in process with life!
Here they are fyi:
  1. Physiological needs, such as needs for food, sleep and air.
  2. Safety, or the needs for security and protection, especially those that emerge from social or political instability.
  3. Belonging and love including, the needs of deficiency and selfish taking instead of giving, and unselfish love that is based upon growth rather than deficiency.
  4. Needs for self-esteem, self-respect, and healthy, positive feelings derived from admiration.
  5. And “being” needs concerning creative self-growth, engendered from fulfillment of potential and meaning in life.

Psychology Today describes Maslow’s theory thus: “Maslow’s hierarchy reflects a linear pattern of growth depicted in a direct pyramidal order of ascension. Moreover, he states that self-actualizing individuals are able to resolve dichotomies such as that reflected in the ultimate contrary of free-will and determinism. He also contends that self-actualizers are highly creative, psychologically robust individuals.”  From: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/theory-and-psychopathology/201308/the-theory-self-actualization

That said – 2 little words NEVER ENDS became like a beacon to me.  One I rushed to my daughter’s house to share with her because the implications are so important and they are this:  WE CAN RELAX a little.  We can BREATHE knowing that where ever we are in the process of self-actualizing, we can rest because we’re always going to be in this process. The rush to get there (i.e., pass that damn licensure exam) is going to be replaced by the next thing anyway, so WTH is the hurry?  I know what you’re thinking – you’re saying to yourself  – “hey lady, aren’t you over 50? ” (hmmmm, yes, I am), what the heck took you so long to figure this out?”  Well maybe I’m one of those smart/dumb people you know. I actually am one of those people, for better or worse – I hope you kinda like me anyway….but really, I am like that – a bit naive and yet smart on lots of levels, but still a bit dumb so maybe, I don’t know – maybe I’m just HUMAN!   But when I read that self-actualizing never ends I understood more about myself and that felt good especially because I always read this theory as a place of arrival rather than a process.  Maybe achieving my PhD is awesome for me but it’s not the end either, and I can always be in process, and that’s ok because according to Maslow (and who doesn’t love a great theorist?), I’m always going to be in process and that’s great because it means all my other needs are met (which is fantastic and awesome and I worked by butt off since I was 12 to get there – another story, but a good one, I promise)…..so I can be, I mean BE and take this exam and it’s all good no matter what!

And the mountains will continue to call – and I will go, and I’ll rest a little while I’m there – which will be new for me. xoxox

Climb every mountain
Search high and low
Follow every byway
Every path you know
Climb every mountain
Ford every stream
Follow every rainbow
‘Till you find your dream
A dream that will need
All the love you can give
Every day of your life
For as long as you live
Climb every mountain
Ford every stream
Follow every rainbow
‘Till you find your dream
Climb every mountain
Ford every stream
Follow every rainbow
‘Till you find your dream
Climb every mountain
Ford every stream
Follow every rainbow
‘Till you find your dream (climb every mountain)
Ford every stream
Follow every rainbow
‘Till you find your dream
Gotta love the Sound of Music where this song originates…. when Maria realizes her fate, when her inner self-actualizing potential (to marry and be a mother) meets the hard realities of her life (she thought she’s be a nun) – like when 6 volumes of study books meet my need to jump, run, yoga, barre and basically not sit anymore…..;0(   – not quite the same but feels like it!!!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EoCPuhhE6dw
Lots of love for all of our adventures.  Meet me on the other side of this mountain and let’s climb – together. How about in the Madonie Mountains – May 2020 –  Flourish Sicily – reach out here:  Come with Us!!!
Reach out – ask questions – JOURNEY TOGETHER.
Much love,
Carla